Wednesday, June 17, 2009

My Daughter's Death and the Sovereignty of God

A friend and member of the new church we are attending, and trying to help grow, lost his only daughter 9 years ago today. At the time he was a pastor of a Word of Faith church in the Clay/Trussville area. He has since come out of that doctrine and is attending a Baptist church and trying to renew (or de-program as he calls it) his mind to the full truth of God's Word. I grieve with him his loss today, but I am so thankful that he's come to know the truth of God's righteous, mighty and sovereign hand. His daughter did not die because her parents didn't confess the right things, speak the right words over her, pray in faith strongly enough, etc... and neither did mine.

Psalm 139:16 says, "Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed. And in Your book they all were written, the days fashioned for me, when as yet there were none of them."

I clung to the truth of this Word daily for years reminding myself that her days were in HIS hands, and understanding His deep love for me gave me great comfort that HIS ways were indeed always right, even when at times they are painful.

John shares his experience on his blog today, I invite you to read it at and to pray for them as they remember Jennifer today. You will be able to read my comments to him as well, once he them posted. I think she was around Anna's age when she died. That really brings it all back into perspective, if you know what I mean. You never "get over" it, it changes you permenantly. Life goes on, you laugh again, you learn to live - but the living is forever different. I would encourage you to read through some of his other posts if you or anyone you know is attending a Word of Faith church or in bondage to this type of belief system.

Hug your precious ones today, mend broken relationships if it is within your power to do so, love your family and friends deeply and freely, show them your heart so that they will truly know you for who you are.

We never know what tomorrow will bring, but one thing I am sure of - His grace is always sufficient,


norma1944 said...

I identify with your pain and pray for peace and tranquility from God to substain peace within your heart.

My oldest daughter was murdered on April 29, 1994 and her killers remain free. Nine years later my second daughter died unexpectdly leaving our family devastated.

I know without God I would be diminished to nothing!
I'm currently writing a book about her murder, "There are no Rainbows in My Sorrow"
Mudered in Englewood, Colorado
"This Generation of Unbelief"

Lori McGuire said...


My sorrow can not compare with your own. I am so sorry for your tragic losses. Indeed His grace is sufficient in our weakness.

I have always said that though people lose children, their loss is never the same, no one can truly know your pain, though some of the grieving process is similar for many of us.

God's grace as you write, may the words of your mouth and the meditations of your heart be acceptable in His sight,

john john said...

Norma God bless and comfort you as only He can. I have no words that express my sorrow for you.